Working With Your Dreams
The other day I watched a YouTube video on working with your dreams, and the suggestion was to choose an element from your dream and dialogue with it to ask why it showed up in your dream, and what message it has for you. Just write your name and your question, then write the name of the dream element, and listen internally for the answer. The answers can be transformational!
This can be a really powerful technique for working with your dreams, and I thought I’d share my own dialogue with you, so you can see how it might work. This dream was really short and consisted only of being in my kitchen, and having my partner point out a large grey spider, high up on the wall. I don’t like spiders – in fact, I have a phobia of them – so I told him I wished he hadn’t shown it to me, as I didn’t want to know it was there.
Here’s the dialogue:
Karen: Hello spider. What were you doing in my dream the other night?
Spider: Saying hello.
Spider: You hadn’t thought about me for a little while.
Karen: Should I think about you often?
Spider: At the moment, you should.
Spider: Because I have things to teach you.
Karen: Really? What sort of things?’
Spider: Things you need to know but don’t want to face.
Karen: That’s why I said I wished he hadn’t shown me the spider on the wall?
Spider: That’s right.
Karen: So what kind of things do I still need to face that I don’t want to see? You’re making me feel sad. Why is that?
Spider: Because you need to kill something that you believe is an integral part of you. I’m here to tell you, it isn’t.
Karen: What part is that?
Spider: Something you think you are – but you’re not.
Karen: What is that? Is it one of my qualities?
Karen: Which one? Or is there more than one?
Spider: More than one.
Karen: How many?
Karen: OK, which one is causing the most problems for me right now? Is one of them around abundance?
Karen: What is it, please?
Spider: The quality that’s holding you back here is smallness. You believe you are small and that big things don’t come to you, and won’t come to you.
Karen: Oh. That feels … correct. What do I do about it?
Spider: You’ve seen it – that’s the first step. Acknowledging it is the next. Then you need to sit with it for a while.
Karen: OK. I’ll do that. [Pause]. I’m still feeling sad. I think it’s because I’m acknowledging that I’m not who I thought I was. Wait. That feeling’s lifting. There’s a smile on my face and I feel lighter. That ache is still there, though, behind it all.
Spider: Keep sitting with it.
Karen. OK. [Pause]. So, after a while, I noticed that sad feeling slowly rising up my body. It got faster when I noticed that, and I felt it go out through the back of my head. Then I yawned.
Spider: Good work! You’ve let go of some of that quality. You can let yourself be bigger now – in the world, I mean. More visible. I suggest you leave it there for now and come back to it in a day or two. You need to let yourself get used to the new, expanded image you have of yourself. Come back and see me when you’ve fully let go of this quality, and we can discuss the next one.
Karen: Thank you. It feels really strange right now, but I’m sure I’ll get used to it. I’ll come back when it’s all gone and I’m ready for the next one.